“No Living Man Am I” (new book excerpt)
In this Dating with Discernment excerpt, from my new book, I try to help men to appreciate women for their unique contributions to a relationship.
Category: Intergendered Intimacy
Gender is a gift given to foster intimacy in relationship. Intergendered relationship build intimacy in sometimes counterintuitive ways.
How to Improve Your Marriage -It’s not Voodoo
When we dig into the Bible book, The Song of Songs, we find a lot of gender distinction in the urgings of the Shulammite Bride. In its pages she presents to us a vision of the ideal love, which can help us in our marriages. These practical principles of gender are very similar to those outlined by the Apostle Paul.
The Shulammite Celebration of Gender, Part I
I had the great honor recently of co-preaching through one of the most confusing (and avoided) books of the Bible: The Song of Songs (aka, The Song of Solomon).
Working with My Wife
One of the exceptional experiences I have had in later life is working together with my wife, Mary K. It is a certain kind of union to spend leisure time together, or to support one another on our separate endeavors, or to cooperate in childrearing, or to come together for physical touch. But it is another thing to collaborate on …
The Equality Act and Changes in Sexual Desire
The United States House of Representatives Bill, H.R.5, or “The Equality Act,” recently passed in the House on its way to the Senate. The bill seeks to extend protections against discrimination on the basis of sex to discrimination against what they call “sexual orientation and gender identity.” In the process, the text of the bill names the name that shall …
Teachers, Take Heart
The key members of our society now find themselves in a predicament. Can school teachers and home-schooling parents to address a new generation growing up in a gender minimizing culture?
A Poorly Gendered Wedding in the Bible
Does a passage in Ecclesiastes teach a negative view of women or the bitterness of a man who beds many of them?
Yoko Needs to Break Up the Band
The break-up of the Beatles broke the heart of a generation. A lot of the blame at the time fell upon Yoko Ono. Why does the idea of a girl coming in and disturbing the male company have such powerful resonance with us?
Incalculable Benefits I Get From My Wife
My wife, Marika, is the most extraordinary person I think I have ever met. Today as I awoke, I wondered how it was that, of all the people in the world, I got to be married to her. There are obvious benefits to marriage, of course, sharing life and pleasures with one another. But I have found some in …
Desires are Moral
A reader writes: My understanding has been that same sex attraction that is not acted upon is not sin. Is a Christian who struggles with same sex attraction, yet in living for the Lord, doesn’t act on these desires, sinning? Is being tempted, yet resisting temptation, still evil? I thought it would be correct to tell a friend wrestling with …