How Does This Gender Talk Square with the Westminster Confession of Faith?

A thoughtful pastor recently asked me, where is this gender teaching of yours in the Westminster Confession of Faith? As a Presbyterian minister, isn’t that your doctrinal standard?  So shouldn’t you be deriving your doctrine with reference to it? It is a good question. It might be re-phrased: Where is gender in the confessional standards of the Christian Church?   …

Looking at The Trinity Without Diverting Our Eyes: Reply to Claire Smith, PART V

One of the most interesting conversations the book, enGendered, seems to spawn concerns the nature of things between the Members of the Triune God. Whereas this topic is often avoided for fear of speaking heresy, I suggest that there is too much in the Scriptures that shows us those relationships to remain completely silent about it ourselves. To be honest, …

We Need Gender Motivation–Emotional intimacy: Reply to Claire Smith, PART IV

I make a lot about emotional intimacy in marriage in the book, enGendered, calling it the key to a successful marriage. That is because passages like Ephesians 5:22-33, the quintessential marriage passage in the New Testament,  describe marriage in those terms (his wife is as close as the husband’s own body, he washes her by word, he who loves his wife …

What are Our Real Differences?: Reply to Claire Smith, Part III

Onward to answer more of Claire Smith’s criticisms of enGendered (politely dressed as questions—thank you kindly, Dr. Smith!).   Dr. Smith questions what I’ve said the asymmetries of gender are. So let’s revisit whence masculinity and femininity, enGendered style, arise. When we listen to how the Bible distinguishes men and women in their callings to one another, we hear very …

Where to See Our Genders –Reply to Claire Smith, Part II

In the first part of this rejoinder to Claire Smith’s thoughtful questioning of enGendered¸ I talked about being careful in using the label, “complementarian.” One had better define it to use it. But it is clear that Dr. Smith understood how I was defining gender in terms of relationship. That I do do, saying that close relationships are where gender …

Speaking of Gender without Ignoring Our Complexities: Reply to Claire Smith in The Gospel Coalition review, Part I

The book, enGendered has something in it to offend just about everyone, so it is a wonder that some people actually like it. While surprised by how well the book has been received, and that in some unlikely corners, the questions it has raised in others were more of what I expected. I am happy at the response of questioning …

Rattlesnakes on the Path of enGendered: Reply to Aimee Byrd, Part 3

As I’ve been saying, I was honored by Aimee Byrd, aka the Housewife Theologian, giving my book a review on the Alliance of Confessing Evangelicals website. She raises some good questions, which I have tried to address here.   But Ms. Byrd’s most serious concern is over whether I have erred in finding the deep meaning of our genders in …

Sticking to Paul’s Categories: Reply to Aimee Byrd, Part 2

I was honored by Aimee Byrd, aka the Housewife Theologian, reading my book and giving it a generous review on the Alliance of Confessing Evangelicals website. I must say, it is great to have Ms. Byrd’s thoughtful voice in our midst, as one who honors the Scriptures and who can teach about gender from the perspective of a woman of …

Grudging or Celebrating? : Reply to Aimee Byrd, Part 1

I am honored that Aimee Byrd, aka Housewife Theologian, has read my book and given it a thoughtful and generous review in her column on the Alliance of Confessing Evangelicals website. As she picked up my metaphor of relationship as a walk in the woods, let me say that I am privileged to have her walk with me a little …