Are Single Persons Second-Class?

One of reasons some scholars argue that the Apostle Paul did not write Ephesians is that the New Testament letter puts forth a vastly different view of marriage than 1Corinthians. I think that this basis for questioning the letter’s stated authorship is a big bowl of baloney with whipped cream on top. The Paul-didn’t-write-Ephesians theory creates far more problems than …

Three Pastors Walk Into a Restaurant…

I know this sounds like the beginning of a joke, but it isn’t. At least I hope not. Rather it was a moment of clarification for the pastors involved when it happened last week. The three of us are there for lunch, to begin the year hearing about each other’s churches and to pray for each other. Naturally, as it so …

The Single Biggest Way to Improve Your Relationships

To improve our relationships, we must first ask a question with a deep answer. Can you come along with me for a little theology? The question is, Why do we have relationships? The answer for the Christian is that God is trinity. God has relationship within God’s triune Self. The Three are co-equal (and co-eternal), but very different individual Persons. …

Feel Like Christian Men Are Not Stepping Up In Marriage? Here’s A Big Reason Why

I find it a helpful practice as a pastor to read through some recommended book on engagement or marriage with each couple I am counseling for marriage. This exercise, along with discussion about the couple’s particular issues, provides perspective for them about what life together will really be like. So, over time I have built up an annotated bibliography of …

The Big Frolicking Circle on the Deep

The following is an excerpt from enGendered, one of the “Scenic Overlooks.” This one opens the book.  The idea of these is to try and guess while you are reading what Bibilcal passage is being imagined, before the last line. If it completely throws you for a loop, don’t worry–I’ll explain it after:   I was racing faster than the speed …

I saw it begin at Yale in 1980…

It was in the campus air. Women’s Studies had begun as a field, laying a groundwork for Queer Theory in the 1990s. The people in the know would introduce it slowly, of course, to make sure it wasn’t completely abhorrent. It was the program to tear down the gender binary.   I noticed it in the women’s styles. Long hair …