Dating with Discernment | AffirmingGender

What Enoch Thinks (Part I – The Asymmetrical Questions)

By Sam A. Andreades January 20, 2022 January 20, 2022 1

Watch as my dating son asks what is really on his mind.

Free Book of Your Choice from Cruciform!

By Sam A. Andreades January 17, 2022 July 14, 2022 1

Publisher offers any book in their catalog for a review of their new dating book.

Why I Wrote a Book on Dating

By Sam A. Andreades January 13, 2022 January 13, 2022 0

According to the U.S. Census Bureau, married couples now make up less than half of American households. Less than half.

The Wedding Night

By Sam A. Andreades December 3, 2021 December 3, 2021 0

Dating With Discernment, available where all fine subversive literature is sold, tells many stories. One of them, Connor & Violet’s wedding night, shows just how intimacy develops in a marriage.

Finding a Firstborn (new book excerpt)

By Sam A. Andreades September 23, 2021 September 23, 2021 1

This Dating-with-Discernment book excerpt advises women daters: you want a man in whom you can invest authority. I.e., you want a guy who is able to take charge for you. Those last 2 words are important.

“No Living Man Am I” (new book excerpt)

By Sam A. Andreades September 18, 2021 September 20, 2021 0

In this Dating with Discernment excerpt, from my new book, I try to help men to appreciate women for their unique contributions to a relationship.

Dating with Discernment: 12 Questions to Make a Lasting Marriage

By Sam A. Andreades August 12, 2021 September 18, 2021 2

Done with dating? Don’t know where to start? Wondering if your date is the one to marry? Bringing the Bible’s wisdom to bear on the dating scene, this book lays a foundation for a love that lasts.

Which one would you pick up to find out more?

By Sam A. Andreades June 18, 2021 September 18, 2021 23

Want to help me choose a book cover? Six top designs compete for attention. Which one would get yours?

What's a Real Man? What's a True Woman?

Is gender real? Does it matter in relationships? What does God think about it? So many diverse questions on peoples' lips today come down to the same thing: What does gender mean? Is it a construct of society or self-perception? Or is it a gift to foster intimacy and fruitfulness in our relationships?

This site fosters honest and thoughtful conversation about the pressing issue of gender. I write from a Christian perspective, placing great value on the Bible's wisdom about it. But just understanding the Bible's message on gender is a big job for our time, and so part of what we discuss here. We also take up questions posed by our current culture's sometimes confusing views on women & men, relationships and identity.

If you are new here, you might want to start with the Big Picture posts, Three Questions... and Want It In A Nutshell?, briefly outlining what I see as the seven main principles of gender.

The posts consist of commentary on current events, excerpts from my general book, transgenderism book, or book on dating, Biblical exposition, praise for the culture’s gender goodness and ruminations on its errors as I see them. We also welcome guest posts from gender-savvy writers.

Read, think, and join the conversation!