#Intergendered | AffirmingGender

Marriage for the Same Sex Attracted?

By Sam A. Andreades March 17, 2023 March 16, 2023 1

Many with unwanted same-sex attraction (SSA) wonder about intergendered union, “Is marriage for me?” The answer is a little more complex than for most people.

Gender Disintegration: From the Academy to Statistics

By Sam A. Andreades January 20, 2023 January 19, 2023 1

If you feel like God’s gift of gender is being destroyed, you are right. How can we know that this sense is more than just a feeling? Is it just alarmism?

Working with My Wife

By Sam A. Andreades July 17, 2021 July 17, 2021 3

One of the exceptional experiences I have had in later life is working together with my wife, Mary K. It is a certain kind of union to spend leisure time together, or to support one another on our separate endeavors, or to cooperate in childrearing, or to come together for physical touch. But it is another thing to collaborate on …

What is wrong with the term, “Same-Sex Marriage”?

By Sam A. Andreades February 5, 2017 February 25, 2017 1

Words Matter. We need to understand what happens when we elect to refer to two men entering into an intimate legal union as “Same-sex Marriage.” Of course, people need to be able to understand each other. So common terminology is good, right? And doesn’t this seem like a value-neutral term? Like “heterosexual marriage?” You are not passing any judgements in …

What's a Real Man? What's a True Woman?

Is gender real? Does it matter in relationships? What does God think about it? So many diverse questions on peoples' lips today come down to the same thing: What does gender mean? Is it a construct of society or self-perception? Or is it a gift to foster intimacy and fruitfulness in our relationships?

This site fosters honest and thoughtful conversation about the pressing issue of gender. I write from a Christian perspective, placing great value on the Bible's wisdom about it. But just understanding the Bible's message on gender is a big job for our time, and so part of what we discuss here. We also take up questions posed by our current culture's sometimes confusing views on women & men, relationships and identity.

If you are new here, you might want to start with the Big Picture posts, Three Questions... and Want It In A Nutshell?, briefly outlining what I see as the seven main principles of gender.

The posts consist of commentary on current events, excerpts from my general book, or book on dating, Biblical exegesis, praise for the culture’s gender goodness and ruminations on its errors as I see them. We also welcome guest posts from gender-savvy writers.

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