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Heteropessimism -The Date Killer

By Sam A. Andreades July 19, 2026 July 19, 2026 0

Once in a while, a label appears that truly fits the phenomenon. Someone coins a word that immediately illuminates the meaning of what is going on.

A Gay Man on Intimacy -review of The Madness of Crowds

By Sam A. Andreades April 19, 2024 April 11, 2024 0

Douglas Murray, with honesty and wit, critiques our culture, while honestly examining the monogendered experience in comparison to the intergendered.

We Need Gender Motivation–Emotional intimacy: Reply to Claire Smith, PART IV

By Sam A. Andreades May 7, 2017 February 10, 2018 1

I make a lot about emotional intimacy in marriage in the book, enGendered, calling it the key to a successful marriage. That is because passages like Ephesians 5:22-33, the quintessential marriage passage in the New Testament, describe marriage in those terms (his wife is as close as the husband’s own body, he washes her by word, he who loves his wife …

What's a Real Man? What's a True Woman?

Is gender real? Does it matter in relationships? What does God think about it? So many diverse questions on peoples' lips today come down to the same thing: What does gender mean? Is it a construct of society or self-perception? Or is it a gift to foster intimacy and fruitfulness in our relationships?

This site fosters honest and thoughtful conversation about the pressing issue of gender. I write from a Christian perspective, placing great value on the Bible's wisdom about it. But just understanding the Bible's message on gender is a big job for our time, and so part of what we discuss here. We also take up questions posed by our current culture's sometimes confusing views on women & men, relationships and identity.

If you are new here, you might want to start with the Big Picture posts, Three Questions... and Want It In A Nutshell?, briefly outlining what I see as the seven main principles of gender.

The posts consist of commentary on current events, excerpts from my general book, transgenderism book, or book on dating, Biblical exposition, praise for the culture’s gender goodness and ruminations on its errors as I see them. We also welcome guest posts from gender-savvy writers.

Read, think, and join the conversation!