Marriage Counseling with My Wife

It is great when my wife can join me for pastoral marriage counseling a couple. It is a journey for us as well, an exploration into unknown territory. It is hard to describe what happens, but I find that we take their problem into ourselves and contend about it. We sometimes get mad at each other. And we end up having the argument they need to have.

Three Questions Our Culture Can No Longer Answer

A Time of Confusion about the Basics What is a Christian response to people who no longer know their left hand from their right (Jonah 4:11)? Or, in our case, their men from their women? The 7th U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals issued a landmark ruling recently that redefines the term “sex” in the 1964 Civil Rights Act to include …

I Was Not Expecting Sam’s Proposal

I, Mary K. Carter, was not expecting a proposal.  Sure, I liked him, but there were so many red flags.  We met at a Sixties costume dance.  Sam, who was a street musician, did not need to wear a costume, because he already looked the part.  I was an artist, recently converted to Christianity.  I craved stability, which Sam did …

How to Tell a Guy, “Go Jump in a Lake!”

One reader asks, in response to the Jump-In-The-Lake post,  “How can I say “no” to a man asking me out in a way that does not crush, but rather encourages, his masculinity?”   I could think of no better person to answer this than one of the world’s leading experts in encouraging masculinity: Mary K. Andreades. So I asked her …

Go Jump In A Lake!

Her name was Linda Hubka. We were in 8th grade, or was it 7th? I had decided that she was the one, and I made up my mind to ask her out. I took a deep breath and let her know that I liked her. But Linda Hubka was a discerning girl, especially for that age, and was reluctant. She …

Wonder Woman’s Lopsided Inspiration

The newly released, and surely best, DC comics movie is cleaning up at the box office. For good reason. The story is compelling and moving, the actors talented and handsome, and the fighting very cool. It is too bad that in all the ways WW can inspire young women, she is not able to teach them what will make their relationships intimate.

Jesus Loved Women

It is fun to see the ways Jesus loved women, emphasizing their equality, all the while upholding the asymmetry between the genders. It makes me want to honor women likewise, as He did.   Read Matthew12:46-50 closely: While he was still speaking to the people, behold, his mother and his brothers stood outside, asking to speak to him. But he …

Da Man Really Doesn’t Know

I am amazed at how often these days people commit hook line and sinker to a theory of something though it lacks a central answer. They hold a great certainty that their thing is The Truth along with a faith that “Oh, some details will be worked out later.” Okay, but what if said details are kind of the main …