Incalculable Benefits I Get From My Wife

My wife, Marika, is the most extraordinary person I think I have ever met. Today as I awoke, I wondered how it was that, of all the people in the world, I got to be married to her.   There are obvious benefits to marriage, of course, sharing life and pleasures with one another. But I have found some in …

Send the Stutterer to Teach

Ever notice how God delights in turning someone’s weakness into a strength? So God takes a man who cannot speak well, who was “slow of speech and of tongue” (Exodus 4:10), to speak some of the most important words ever spoken. These were captured in something called the Pentateuch. This God appointed the man, Moses, to a position requiring many …

Desires are Moral

A reader writes: My understanding has been that same sex attraction that is not acted upon is not sin.  Is a Christian who struggles with same sex attraction, yet in living for the Lord, doesn’t act on these desires, sinning?  Is being tempted, yet resisting temptation,  still evil? I thought it would be correct to tell a friend wrestling with …

Roses and Champagne in a Field of Butter

The same year enGendered was published (2015), Rosaria Champagne Butterfield released Openness Unhindered: Further Thoughts of an Unlikely Convert on Sexual Identity and Union with Christ. I want AffirmingGender readers to know of this work.   This sequel to her first Christian book opens with further reflections on her conversion. As she goes on, Dr. Butterfield gives us a refreshing …

When Girlfriends are No Longer Safe

A college freshman friend of mine recently found herself in a sad plight, now sadly typical. Young women, transitioning from high school to college, often crave close relationship. If you are such a young woman, to find a girlfriend, with whom you really connect, feels like a gift from heaven. Because it is. A close same-gendered friend is so much …

Exactly Backwards: Soul Mates, Part II

I was talking last time about how couples today often make the decision to marry based on a feeling of being soul mates. I thought similarly too, in my time, when I decided to marry my wife: that this is what will make our marriage last. But we are getting things exactly backwards. The story goes that a pastor once …

Soul Mates or Maturing Souls?

I officiated a wonderful wedding last week. There was talk, as there always is, of whether these two would be right for each other. I told the guests why I was there and why I was confident to pronounce them “husband and wife.”   Many people today feel like two people should get married if they are soul mates. I …

Jesus Loved Women

It is fun to see the ways Jesus loved women, emphasizing their equality, all the while upholding the asymmetry between the genders. It makes me want to honor women likewise, as He did.   Read Matthew12:46-50 closely: While he was still speaking to the people, behold, his mother and his brothers stood outside, asking to speak to him. But he …

And He Gave…Teachers: Thankful for Wayne Grudem

It really is wonderful how Christ has fulfilled his promise down through the ages, giving teachers to the church (Ephesians 4:11-13).   One of those teachers is Wayne Grudem. He has written many books on different subjects, and taught theology and ethics to many students for a long time. But, as history goes on, perhaps his greatest contribution may be …