AffirmingGender Fall 2017 Calendar

Those looking for live happenings we welcomed to come Affirm Gender with me at one of these fall events. These were some opportunities to learn a way to answer the most pressing gender questions and receive practical guidance on resolving gender troubles.   September 29-October 01: enGendered: God, Gender and Sexuality in the 21st century Peace Presbyterian Church, Cary/Raleigh NC …

How to Tell a Guy, “Go Jump in a Lake!”

One reader asks, in response to the Jump-In-The-Lake post,  “How can I say “no” to a man asking me out in a way that does not crush, but rather encourages, his masculinity?”   I could think of no better person to answer this than one of the world’s leading experts in encouraging masculinity: Mary K. Andreades. So I asked her …

Go Jump In A Lake!

Her name was Linda Hubka. We were in 8th grade, or was it 7th? I had decided that she was the one, and I made up my mind to ask her out. I took a deep breath and let her know that I liked her. But Linda Hubka was a discerning girl, especially for that age, and was reluctant. She …

Qualified to Speak: An admiration of Glenn T. Stanton

A question often asked of me while Affirming Gender is how to deal with friends or loved ones making gender decisions we feel are bad for them. A book I often recommend, especially if short on time to answer, is Glenn T. Stanton’s Loving My (LGBT) Neighbor: Being Friends in Grace and Truth (2014). Mr. Stanton gets gender in a …

Her Needed Voice

I was feeling quite happy. This king was only eighteen years old, but the last ten years had shown the royal colors. Finally, I was thinking as we walked along, a king who actually trusts the priesthood.

Alternative Trans-Stories

There is no shortage of stories in the media of how wonderful it is to transition from one sex to another. But the microphone never seems to be handed to the people who have done it and then come to see a better way for themselves.  This lack has been addressed by Pure Passion Media/Mastering Life Ministries in their 105 …

How Does This Gender Talk Square with the Westminster Confession of Faith?

A thoughtful pastor recently asked me, where is this gender teaching of yours in the Westminster Confession of Faith? As a Presbyterian minister, isn’t that your doctrinal standard?  So shouldn’t you be deriving your doctrine with reference to it? It is a good question. It might be re-phrased: Where is gender in the confessional standards of the Christian Church?   …

The Amazing SRY Gene: The Male On-Off Switch

The waterfall of information pouring forth from the mapping of the human genome continues to supply wondrous insight into our selves. One of these watershed discoveries came when the British researcher, Peter Goodfellow, identified the SRY gene as the male on-off switch (Nature 348 (1990): 448–50).   When we say that a person’s sex, male or female, is in the …

AffirmingGender in Summer So Far

I have had some great times Affirming Gender so far this summer, and can give some good reports.   Encountering the select assembly from Millersville Bible Church in June was so very encouraging because I met a group of people who wanted to actually do something to help those with sexuality difficulties. Lancaster County—always full of surprises. Their enthusiasm testified …