Three Questions Our Culture Can No Longer Answer

A Time of Confusion about the Basics What is a Christian response to people who no longer know their left hand from their right (Jonah 4:11)? Or, in our case, their men from their women? The 7th U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals issued a landmark ruling recently that redefines the term “sex” in the 1964 Civil Rights Act to include …

The Birth of the Homosexual

At the enGendered Conference at Peace Church two weeks ago, Rosaria Butterfield gave an insightful talk on “How we Got Here – Gender and Sexuality,” critiquing the attempt to build an identity on one’s sexual desires. In it, she referenced Michel Foucault’s influential 1976 work, The History of Sexuality, whence comes our popular phrase, “the will to power.” Most normal …

Three Things You Need When Your Adult Child Says, “I am gay.”

To Christian parents, those three words are a shock, beginning a cascade of difficult feelings. Despite the cultural shift, most Christians still disagree that adopting a gay identity is a good move so hearing those three words still brings anguish. After years of AffirmingGender ministry, I find this to be an increasingly common experience among those I address who are …

Gender Dysphoria is a Nice-Sounding Term

When spoken, it wafts gently through the air. It rhymes soothingly with euphoria. It almost sounds peaceful. To those who experience it, it is anything but peaceful. Yet dysphoria has the advantage of being so clinical a term that ordinary people like us, who are not doctors and never use it in conversation, have no idea what it means. That …

I Was Not Expecting Sam’s Proposal

I, Mary K. Carter, was not expecting a proposal.  Sure, I liked him, but there were so many red flags.  We met at a Sixties costume dance.  Sam, who was a street musician, did not need to wear a costume, because he already looked the part.  I was an artist, recently converted to Christianity.  I craved stability, which Sam did …

“Let us…”’ Unveil God

In his passionate 2013 book, Fully Alive, page 35, Larry Crabb makes a highly significant point. He notes how, when God created us in Genesis 1:26, The Creator said, “Let us make man in our image.” As Dr. Crabb points out, “it is only when God made male and female human beings that he introduced Himself as persons-in-community.” In other …

AffirmingGender Fall 2017 Calendar

For those of you looking for live happenings, you are welcome to come Affirm Gender with me at one of these fall events. If you are anywhere near, here are some opportunities to learn a way to answer the most pressing gender questions and receive practical guidance on resolving gender troubles.   September 29-October 01: enGendered: God, Gender and Sexuality …

How to Tell a Guy, “Go Jump in a Lake!”

One reader asks, in response to the Jump-In-The-Lake post,  “How can I say “no” to a man asking me out in a way that does not crush, but rather encourages, his masculinity?”   I could think of no better person to answer this than one of the world’s leading experts in encouraging masculinity: Mary K. Andreades. So I asked her …

Go Jump In A Lake!

Her name was Linda Hubka. We were in 8th grade, or was it 7th? I had decided that she was the one, and I made up my mind to ask her out. I took a deep breath and let her know that I liked her. But Linda Hubka was a discerning girl, especially for that age, and was reluctant. She …