Where to See Our Genders –Reply to Claire Smith, Part II

In the first part of this rejoinder to Claire Smith’s thoughtful questioning of enGendered¸ I talked about being careful in using the label, “complementarian.” One had better define it to use it. But it is clear that Dr. Smith understood how I was defining gender in terms of relationship. That I do do, saying that close relationships are where gender …

Gender Lack in La La Land

The mesmerizing movie, La La Land, which came out at the end of last year and went on to win many awards in the last few months, tells a story that often happens. A young girl moves to Los Angeles or New York to make it, begins sleeping with a musician, and then has her heart broken. However it is …

When to Answer “Yes” to a Transgendered Person

When a friend or loved one finally discloses to us the struggle that they have had with their gender, whether it be simply feelings of gender dysphoria or a revelation that they have had hormone treatments or are now considering surgery, it is an important moment. What should be our response if we want to help our friend?   Of …

Ahh, Priscilla

People of a certain persuasion often refer to Acts 18 to argue that we should make no distinctions between women and men in the church or, at least, that women should authoritatively teach in the church. Consider the verses with me: 1 After this Paul left Athens and went to Corinth. 2 And he found a Jew named Aquila, a native …

What is wrong with the term, “Same-Sex Marriage”?

Words Matter. We need to understand what happens when we elect to refer to two men entering into an intimate legal union as “Same-sex Marriage.” Of course, people need to be able to understand each other. So common terminology is good, right? And doesn’t this seem like a value-neutral term? Like “heterosexual marriage?” You are not passing any judgements in …

What is God’s Gender?

A reader writes: “You don’t really tackle the gender of God, why God reveals himself with masculine pronouns.” This is a fantastic question. (My readers are just the best.) It is also a very necessary one. Because the answer to the question confers something desperately needed by about half of the image-bearers of God. Many women grow up with a …

Feel Like Christian Men Are Not Stepping Up In Marriage? Here’s A Big Reason Why

I find it a helpful practice as a pastor to read through some recommended book on engagement or marriage with each couple I am counseling for marriage. This exercise, along with discussion about the couple’s particular issues, provides perspective for them about what life together will really be like. So, over time I have built up an annotated bibliography of …

I saw it begin at Yale in 1980…

It was in the campus air. Women’s Studies had begun as a field, laying a groundwork for Queer Theory in the 1990s. The people in the know would introduce it slowly, of course, to make sure it wasn’t completely abhorrent. It was the program to tear down the gender binary.   I noticed it in the women’s styles. Long hair …