How Does This Gender Talk Square with the Westminster Confession of Faith?

A thoughtful pastor recently asked me, where is this gender teaching of yours in the Westminster Confession of Faith? As a Presbyterian minister, isn’t that your doctrinal standard?  So shouldn’t you be deriving your doctrine with reference to it? It is a good question. It might be re-phrased: Where is gender in the confessional standards of the Christian Church?   …

Looking at The Trinity Without Diverting Our Eyes: Reply to Claire Smith, PART V

One of the most interesting conversations the book, enGendered, seems to spawn concerns the nature of things between the Members of the Triune God. Whereas this topic is often avoided for fear of speaking heresy, I suggest that there is too much in the Scriptures that shows us those relationships to remain completely silent about it ourselves. To be honest, …

We Need Gender Motivation–Emotional intimacy: Reply to Claire Smith, PART IV

I make a lot about emotional intimacy in marriage in the book, enGendered, calling it the key to a successful marriage. That is because passages like Ephesians 5:22-33, the quintessential marriage passage in the New Testament,  describe marriage in those terms (his wife is as close as the husband’s own body, he washes her by word, he who loves his wife …

What are Our Real Differences?: Reply to Claire Smith, Part III

Onward to answer more of Claire Smith’s criticisms of enGendered (politely dressed as questions—thank you kindly, Dr. Smith!).   Dr. Smith questions what I’ve said the asymmetries of gender are. So let’s revisit whence masculinity and femininity, enGendered style, arise. When we listen to how the Bible distinguishes men and women in their callings to one another, we hear very …

Where to See Our Genders –Reply to Claire Smith, Part II

In the first part of this rejoinder to Claire Smith’s thoughtful questioning of enGendered¸ I talked about being careful in using the label, “complementarian.” One had better define it to use it. But it is clear that Dr. Smith understood how I was defining gender in terms of relationship. That I do do, saying that close relationships are where gender …

Speaking of Gender without Ignoring Our Complexities: Reply to Claire Smith in The Gospel Coalition review, Part I

The book, enGendered has something in it to offend just about everyone, so it is a wonder that some people actually like it. While surprised by how well the book has been received, and that in some unlikely corners, the questions it has raised in others were more of what I expected. I am happy at the response of questioning …