I Was Not Expecting Sam’s Proposal

I, Mary K. Carter, was not expecting a proposal.  Sure, I liked him, but there were so many red flags.  We met at a Sixties costume dance.  Sam, who was a street musician, did not need to wear a costume, because he already looked the part.  I was an artist, recently converted to Christianity.  I craved stability, which Sam did …

How to Tell a Guy, “Go Jump in a Lake!”

One reader asks, in response to the Jump-In-The-Lake post,  “How can I say “no” to a man asking me out in a way that does not crush, but rather encourages, his masculinity?”   I could think of no better person to answer this than one of the world’s leading experts in encouraging masculinity: Mary K. Andreades. So I asked her …

Go Jump In A Lake!

Her name was Linda Hubka. We were in 8th grade, or was it 7th? I had decided that she was the one, and I made up my mind to ask her out. I took a deep breath and let her know that I liked her. But Linda Hubka was a discerning girl, especially for that age, and was reluctant. She …

Gender Lack in La La Land

The mesmerizing movie, La La Land, which came out at the end of last year and went on to win many awards in the last few months, tells a story that often happens. A young girl moves to Los Angeles or New York to make it, begins sleeping with a musician, and then has her heart broken. However it is …

Christ is the Paragon of Femininity

Christ is the Paragon of Femininity
“Wait, what!?” you exclaim. “That doesn’t sound right. We know that Jesus Christ was incarnate as a man, not a woman, so how can He show us femininity?” Well, you are thinking about gender in isolation again, but the Bible teaches us differently…

Christ is Masculinity Extraordinaire

In relationship to His Church, Jesus Christ demonstrates masculinity in its pure form. The apostle Paul calls forth the excellency of Christ becoming our husband in 2Corinthians 11:2-3, while Ephesians 5:22-33 explains it more fully, two examples among others. So if you want to see a real man, look at Christ in this relationship to His Church.   Jesus took …

What is God’s Gender?

A reader writes: “You don’t really tackle the gender of God, why God reveals himself with masculine pronouns.” This is a fantastic question. (My readers are just the best.) It is also a very necessary one. Because the answer to the question confers something desperately needed by about half of the image-bearers of God. Many women grow up with a …

Is this one I am dating “the one”?

If you are dating and the relationship has persisted for a while, you reach a point of asking, “Is this the one? Should we be together? Should we go for it, that momentous move called marriage?” It is exciting and dizzy and, yes, scary. Is this the one? Here’s how to tell.   The Bible supplies important wisdom on this point. …