AffirmingGender Fall 2017 Calendar

Those looking for live happenings we welcomed to come Affirm Gender with me at one of these fall events. These were some opportunities to learn a way to answer the most pressing gender questions and receive practical guidance on resolving gender troubles.   September 29-October 01: enGendered: God, Gender and Sexuality in the 21st century Peace Presbyterian Church, Cary/Raleigh NC …

AffirmingGender in Summer So Far

I have had some great times Affirming Gender so far this summer, and can give some good reports.   Encountering the select assembly from Millersville Bible Church in June was so very encouraging because I met a group of people who wanted to actually do something to help those with sexuality difficulties. Lancaster County—always full of surprises. Their enthusiasm testified …

Announcement for Subscriber Friends

Dear Subscriber, I want to thank you for welcoming me into your email-box during these past months. I consider it an honor to have your attention for my posts and I take your subscription to mean that you are thinking with me about the important issue of gender. This makes me happy.   For the past five months, I have …

AffirmingGender Summer 2017 Calendar

Hey, for those of you who missed previous conferences and events, and would like to catch one, come Affirm Gender with me at one of these upcoming venues. Peace Presbyterian Church is hosting a conference with Rosaria Butterfield and myself speaking on September 30. And here are some others…

The Best Thing About the Quarryville Affirming Gender Seminar

For those who have been asking, the Quarryville Affirming Gender Seminar in February went terrifically. We had folks from all over the area who came to the three sessions (Friday night, Saturday morning) and brought their questions and struggles with them. Though the people from my congregation had an edge in the Book-Give-Away-Bible-Question contests (because they hear me talk every week and have picked up clues along the way), one out-of-towner still won one anyway.


They came with suspicions. They came with burdens. Pastor Brett Rush came with his guitar and led us into the Presence of the Giver of the gift. But most of all, they came with the questions that have become all too common to me. I hear them repeated as I speak and talk to people all over. I have now spoken on gender to gatherings in different areas of the country (New York, North Carolina, Alaska, different parts of Pennsylvania, Washington state, Kansas, California, Washington D.C. and New Jersey). It does not seem to matter where one lives. Even correspondence with those outside the country (like Ukraine or Tasmania…yeah, Tasmania-there are real people there and everything) brings similar queries:


“I feel overwhelmed: How do I love my son/friend/relative who has announced that he is gay?”

“How can I as a woman take this particular Scripture seriously as God’s word” (of a verse such as 1Corinthians 11:7, but really, take your pick of several)?

“Still, though, there is something about football that is manly…right? …Come on, right? …No really, right?”

“What do I say to the parents of this child in the class I teach who is transitioning?”

“Our marriage is stuck and we don’t know what to do about it.”

“Do you understand how strong these feelings are to live as the other gender I feel I am?”

“What about stay-at-home dads? Is that genderly proper?”

“How do I deal with my same-sex attraction as a Christian?”

“My child is playing with the wrong type of toy. Should I worry? What should I do?”


One of the attendees even wrote about her experience from the weekend, which account found its way to me and which she gave permission to include on our Speaker page.


These were all great. But the best thing about the conference for me was the fair number of local pastors and ministry leaders who attended. The real need of Christ’s church is to have her shepherds and teachers equipped and confident to lead her forward through gender confusion. Leadership was multiplied that weekend. Hoo-rah!


The food was also a high point, but then again, this is the Shire, so it is to be expected. Thank you, Faith Church, for backing me up on this and serving the larger Body of Christ. Love you!


Coming soon: AffirmingGender’s updated calendar. If you missed this one, maybe you can catch another gender affirming event near you.


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The Faith Church Affirming Gender Seminar is Approaching!

We are making final preparations here at Faith Church in Quarryville to host the first AffirmingGender event of the year. Our flyer with the event information has been well-publicized locally and we are coordinating with the FC Social-Outreach Committee to make it a great time. The conference will begin Friday night at 7:30pm with music from the talented Pastor Brett …

Where to Affirm Gender (Public Speaking engagements so far planned in 2017)

As far as engagements open to the public, we are beginning the year Affirming Gender locally. My own Faith Church will be hosting a seminar later this month. So if you are somewhere near southern Lancaster County, come join the fun!

Date: February 24-25 (Friday night-Saturday morning)

Place: Faith Reformed Presbyterian Church –611 Robert Fulton Highway, Quarryville. (It’s not actually a highway…in fact, it is really just Church Street, but it makes us feel bigger to call it a highway).

Here’s a link to a flyer with more information. We want to do this as a gift to our community so it will only be $5/person to cover food. Pastor Brett Rush will be doing music for it and each of the three sessions will include a Q&A time.

**In a few weeks, all subscribers to will be receiving by email a free pass to this Quarryville event. We’d like to honor your expression of interest in the important matters of gender that you showed in joining the site. Thanks! With the free pass we want to especially welcome your participation in the seminar. **


But if you are in the real south, rather than just the southern end, look for a Gender conference at Peace Church in Cary, North Carolina (outside of Rawleigh) on the last day of September. This is another event open to the public. Rosaria Butterfield and I will be taking the stage to affirm gender together. We will keep you updated with more information.


See? There really are some places left to gather together to learn how to celebrate the gift!